When it comes to putting on clothes, EVERY DAY IS BACKWARDS DAY. There seems to be a preference for it. Shoes, pull-ups, pants, dresses, shirts, all go on backwards. We advise they are, which in the morning tends to result in correction. Just before bed, it tends to result in the declaration of Backwards Day.
Of course, being tired, we just allow it.
I started it by making the reference to a Daniel Tiger story where Ms Elena declared it Backwards Day. Daniel loved the game, but O the Owl resisted. I felt like O, but I just now roll with it. I used it as a critique of myself, but now Fleur loves the game.
She makes small tweaks to form to find the one that works if it doesn’t initially work.
She learns from the past mistakes.
She develops a preference.
My hope is experiences like this will help her pass the marshmallow test.
I dislike having to wait. I am not good at padding the timeline to include how long it could take her. I hope to get better about accommodating this.
Thankfully, when I offer to help, she rebuffs me. This tends to be a bit more intense than my preference, but I respect that she wants to do it. Also, if we try to intervene by putting on her socks or shoes without permission, then she will get upset and remove it and get even more determined to do it herself.