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Scaffold parenting

Fatherly has a good post on scaffold parenting. I am by trade a fixer, so hanging back and letting something else do it takes all of my patience. At work, I am in a new role, so I have my replacements doing the work and advising when they need help. Basically, using my parenting at the office.

Scaffolding is a process where an adult helps a child manage a task that they couldn’t otherwise manage on their own. It requires situational wisdom about when to provide children with temporary support, when to allow them to make mistakes by doing things on their own, and helping them through the reflection process when things don’t work out how they would like.

What Is Scaffold Parenting, and Should I Do It?
Only if you’re willing to grow alongside your child.
Fatherly.com April 22, 2022

Fleur craved physical independence, so I had to learn to let her do things. Right now she is also into social development. She loves her dolls, gave each a personality, and workshops her friendships. The challenge will be school and whether she approaches it like Ada or me. Hopefully Ada.

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Backwards day

When it comes to putting on clothes, EVERY DAY IS BACKWARDS DAY. There seems to be a preference for it. Shoes, pull-ups, pants, dresses, shirts, all go on backwards. We advise they are, which in the morning tends to result in correction. Just before bed, it tends to result in the declaration of Backwards Day.

Of course, being tired, we just allow it.

I started it by making the reference to a Daniel Tiger story where Ms Elena declared it Backwards Day. Daniel loved the game, but O the Owl resisted. I felt like O, but I just now roll with it. I used it as a critique of myself, but now Fleur loves the game.